A Note from Barbara

Welcome to my website. I write about sex. Or more specifically, how to heal from your sexual past, whether it’s from your own choice, or someone else’s choice forced on you, as in abuse or rape. An estimated 95% of people today have sex before marriage, a recent survey has discovered. The sexual revolution promised freedom, fun and pleasure, but delivered pain, shame and wounding instead. Maybe you’re one of the causalities of casual sex. I was. And then God healed me. The great news is…He wants to do the same for you.

Sex is like glue. Super human glue. Inside marriage, God designed it to be a bond that is powerful and unifying. Outside of marriage, the bonds of sex can be devastating. Long after the lover has gone, the bond we’ve created stays with us impacting our lives and future relationships in a negative way. In my books I present Scripture and scientific research to show how God designed us to be uniquely bonded through sex, how sexual bonding in our past hurts us and our future relationships, including marriage, and how to break those bonds forged outside of marriage so that we can be free sexually and emotionally from our past.

What God has done for me and countless others, He wants to do for you. He can heal the wounds you’ve experienced from your sexual past, reverse the lies you’ve ingrained with His truth, help you grieve the losses you’ve incurred and break the ungodly bonds you’ve forged outside marriage, enabling you to re-bond in a present or future marriage.

Join me in discovering God’s miraculous, life-changing healing power to set you free…free to live, love and serve with abandon.

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What to do when past sexual abuse is hurting your marriage

Bring Healing To Those With A Sexual Abuse Past. If your wife was a victim of past sexual abuse, you know the damage and hurt it causes.

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When Anxiety Bullies You and Your Marriage

Life was good. The kids were raised and doing well. Our marriage was great, and I’d just begun graduate school, fulfilling a dream of my own.

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Cultivating Emotional Security and Intimacy in Your Marriage

Who could you go to for comfort growing up? Who was that caring person you could trust would be there and meet your needs if you felt sad, hurt or lonely?

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Relating to Women

Childhood sexual abuse (CSA) is an unimaginable evil perpetrated upon the most innocent and vulnerable, and it shatters a child’s sense of safety, security, and trust.

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How to Help Your Anxious Child

Marie* was afraid of many things. Being away from her parents, going to school, sleeping by herself, failing a test, or answering a question in class.

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The Five Levels of Intimacy

“First comes love, then comes marriage, then here they come with a baby carriage.”

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Help! I Love my Husband but I Don’t like Sex

Has love betrayed you? There is hope.

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I Can't Forgive Their Sexual Past

I recently heard from a man struggling with the sexual past of a new love in his life.

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Watch Barbara talk about her new book, Kiss Me Again.

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